Time is the Coin of Your Life

I’ve been spending my free time the last few days working through Hillary Rodham Clinton’s new book, What Happened.  I’m burning through it fairly quickly, though I have to admit, as a young woman pursuing a profession, it’s heartbreaking at times and I have to put it down.  Throughout the book, Hillary Rodham Clinton has sprinkled a lot of great quotes, and I thought I would share with you one of my favourites so far:

Time is the coin of your life.  You spend it.  Do not allow others to spend it for you.

– Carl Sandberg

Saying “no” to people who are asking for your time can be very difficult.  I think this quote serves as a beautiful little reminder to be intentional with how you use your time, even if it means pushing back on others when it’s necessary.

The Best Relationship Advice

I learned the best piece of advice for relationships – not only romantic relationships, but for when you are talking to anyone – a friend, family member, colleague – from a pre-marriage course that my husband and I took through our church while we were planning our wedding.

This piece of advice stuck with me because I immediately realized that it could be applied in nearly any context, whenever I am having a conversation.

The advice is this:

Before you speak to someone, consider the following three questions about what you are planning to say:

  1. Is it true?
  2. Is it necessary?
  3. Is it kind?

If you cannot quickly say “yes” to at least 2 of those 3 questions, don’t say it.

In my experience, running through these 3 considerations now and then have assisted me with keeping conversations positive and meaningful.