I’ve been spending my free time the last few days working through Hillary Rodham Clinton’s new book, What Happened. I’m burning through it fairly quickly, though I have to admit, as a young woman pursuing a profession, it’s heartbreaking at times and I have to put it down. Throughout the book, Hillary Rodham Clinton has sprinkled a lot of great quotes, and I thought I would share with you one of my favourites so far:
Time is the coin of your life. You spend it. Do not allow others to spend it for you.
– Carl Sandberg
Saying “no” to people who are asking for your time can be very difficult. I think this quote serves as a beautiful little reminder to be intentional with how you use your time, even if it means pushing back on others when it’s necessary.
I learned the best piece of advice for relationships – not only romantic relationships, but for when you are talking to anyone – a friend, family member, colleague – from a pre-marriage course that my husband and I took through our church while we were planning our wedding.
This piece of advice stuck with me because I immediately realized that it could be applied in nearly any context, whenever I am having a conversation.
The advice is this:
Before you speak to someone, consider the following three questions about what you are planning to say:
- Is it true?
- Is it necessary?
- Is it kind?
If you cannot quickly say “yes” to at least 2 of those 3 questions, don’t say it.
In my experience, running through these 3 considerations now and then have assisted me with keeping conversations positive and meaningful.